Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?

[虚偽の幻影]

being chubby isn't bad
chubby is cute imo

=w= being chubby and fat are two different things

[icy ciel]

well... maybe if you think you are too fat,
you can try go on diet...
but if you think you are fine~ then no need~~
as long as you are healthy

[ArcadiaLegend]

...Still, so much pessimism on these boards.

From what I've seen people here have either had an extremely bad experience with love or have a very negative view of themselves. Or both for that matter. Either way, that would be a huge factor in this. But of course this is all too common in the world today. People being too focused on the outward appearance as you said doesn't help. Doesn't matter if someone is the most beautiful/handsome person alive they could also be the biggest jerk in existence. Who really deserves your attention? The person that accepts you and everything about you. I wouldn't settle for anything less than that. That's also the main problem because the world is so unaccepting and judging of every little thing. Also, people have a tendency to not be exactly true to one person. Betraying someone's trust like that is just horrible. Still, I think if you're meant to be with someone you'll find them. Love is mysterious as heck that way. It really is. Course it can hurt you like hell too in some cases. Tread carefully. That's the best thing to do.

[Vermilion Sky]

My answer to the thread question: I don't give a damn.

...Still, so much pessimism on these boards.

And you will be waiting forever if think that will ever change.

[Melody_Light]

Funny...I think there is too much optimism on this board...just perhaps maybe not in this thread.

Then again, people are their own worse critics...

When I was 95lbs, I labeled myself as too skinny...when I jumped up to 140lbs, I was too fat...

Now, I think I've embraced myself a bit better, as I've lost fat, gained muscle, though am still around 130-135lbs...I also gained the boobs too thanks to the weight gain...

When I was skinny, I was a lot like Finnel's body shape, and being a dark-haired American (aka: land where people dream for their women to be blonde, skinny, and have seducing curves), I hated it...but now that I've got a *bit* of meat on my bones, have curves, boobs (not big, I know, but I have them nonetheless) and I feel more comfortable looking exotic rather than superficial with the fake blonde look (not that I ever liked the concept of me being blonde, but I've gotten over the mentality of people adoring blondes moreso than brunettes), I tend to fill a bit better.

I guess, the point I'm getting at, is f*** what the people think, and go with what you view as beautiful. If you don't feel comfortable about it in just your eyes alone, perhaps you should work on it to make yourself feel better (unless you want the extreme and find beauty in an unhealthy manner, then I oppose)...Feel comfortable with who you are rather than what most want you to be...

I feel comfortable, and I'm happily engaged...does that say anything?

If that doesn't, and you still hate your appearance, but have a b/f or g/f, then what's the problem? They obviously like you for who you are, so why not you?

If not in a relationship, take it from me, there is nothing wrong with being single...it may seem scary at the time, but before I got in my last relationship, do you know how fun it was to just be myself and have my own time to do what I want? I'm NOT talking about dating around, being frivilous or anything like that (but if that's your cup of tea, go ahead)...I played games, did hobbies I enjoyed, met knew friends, learned life lessons...most of what you learn about yourself is when you're single. If you don't like yourself and your single, there are things you can fix, and things you must accept. Afterall, you don't want to loose that individuality...Imagine what the whole world would look like if we all had the same ideals of beauty? We'd living in a boring world...

Afterall, that's why they say love hits when you least expect it...when people are single and hate to be single, it's usually because they haven't accepted themselves...but the moment they do, that confidence shows, and that's when people are attracted to you. Sad to say that's what it's usually keeping people single; the lack of confidence.

This coming from a girl that sounds like she has an ego issue...

[Dr K]

My thoughts have already been said. Self-confidence goes a long way in relationships. Just be yourself, have fun and hang out with people who have the same interests as you. If something clicks then most likely you'll be in a relationship with someone before you know it. No point in trying to date someone who doesn't have the same interests in you or has impossibly high standards and is incredibly shallow. I mean we all have standards but there is no sense in trying to date someone who is shallow and doesn't accept you for who you are. Y'know?

Of course I'm a huge hypocrite poopie head for saying that as I'm not in a relationship right now. Still, if I get into a relationship again then it will happen when the time is right.

[Moriarty147]

People really seem to focus on romantic relationships too much, seriously. Virtually everyone who is open to the possibility of one occuring, will meet the person of their dreams at some time, and if they happen to fall in love some time, then that's wonderful. But why obsess about romantic relationships when you're not in one, solely because you're not in one? It seems fairly roundabout and pointless, not to mention it's a wonderful way to make yourself sadder than you normally are for no real reason.

Also, people in this world are so shallow that hair colour matters to them in their friends and SOs at all, let alone to deal breaker extents? Holy shit.

[Melody_Light]

People really seem to focus on romantic relationships too much, seriously. Virtually everyone who is open to the possibility of one occuring, will meet the person of their dreams at some time, and if they happen to fall in love some time, then that's wonderful. But why obsess about romantic relationships when you're not in one, solely because you're not in one? It seems fairly roundabout and pointless, not to mention it's a wonderful way to make yourself sadder than you normally are for no real reason.

Also, people in this world are so shallow that hair colour matters to them in their friends and SOs at all, let alone to deal breaker extents? Holy shit.

*high fives*

Being in a relationship is WAY too overated...that said, I'm happily engaged, but yeah, I miss my single life...just when I got to appreciate being single, I lose that status...LOL

[Jeth86]

Being in a relationship is WAY too overated...that said, I'm happily engaged, but yeah, I miss my single life...just when I got to appreciate being single, I lose that status...LOL

Getting married, eh? Have a happy life!

[Hellfire99X]

Hmmm, Valentine's Day is coming up soon. Perfect time for me to find topics like these while exploring the boards.

I have to agree with Melody_Light and Moriarty147 on this -- if you're single, don't focus too much on the fact. Otherwise you'll turn into someone like me!

More seriously... it may take you years to find a compatible someone. Don't dwell on the possibility. It's true, while you're single, you can do a lot more things for yourself than you'd otherwise be able to do. Part of the reason why I've been able to afford a PS3 and Ar tonelico III, along with other hard-to-find games and soundtracks (mostly foreign/import) while still planning for a lengthy con vacation in the coming months, is purely because I'm single and I can afford to. If I were dating, the con would definitely be out the window -- I'd be spending that money either in airfare to visit her (if it were long-distance), or in various other day-to-day dating expenses (if in person.) The PS3 and AT3 might've been pushed back, too.

I could go into a lengthy spiel about things in my life, but ehhh. Maybe another time. The overall message I'd be trying to put out there would be: be yourself, and try to be positive. If things aren't positive right now, try twisting them in a way that makes them more positive to yourself. You don't have to be a bright ray of sunshine for everybody else out there (even though I tend to be like that while in public), but as long as you can keep the positivity in your life, it makes it that much easier to work out any other lingering issues. Plus, you never know the impact your simple acts of kindness might have on another person! I once heard a story of a guy who was ready to start a shoot-out in a park, but thanks to a chance encounter with a friendly dog who was just happy to see him, he changed his mind and turned himself in to a (very surprised) police officer.

As for myself... I'm single, and likely will be for the forseeable future. I'm not particularly looking for a relationship, though if something happens down the road, right on! But seeing as how I've had lousy luck with love in the past (and maintaining friendships after love has expired), I'll probably opt to maintain friendship status instead of experimenting with love again.

Also, grats on your engagement, Melody_Light! And to everybody else on their relationships!

[Giovanni]

I get "kidnapped" by mine often.... It sucks...

[Ellio]

Being in a relationship is WAY too overated...that said, I'm happily engaged, but yeah, I miss my single life...just when I got to appreciate being single, I lose that status...LOL

I actually say the same exact thing. I used to love being single and now im in a relationship



yeah i don't even remember how it happened XD

[b_alasdair]

Alas, I do not.
I think I have some excuses, though.
1) I'm about 60 lbs. overweight.
2) I'm horribly shy and unsocial in person.
3) I'm not looking for a girlfriend.
4) I'm in the heavily conservative American southeast.

[exec_ragnaros]

No, but I'm not where I want to be in life right now either. Active Duty military, for me at least, isn't the way to court a woman and attract her to my life.

[YoruTenkuu]

don't have one ='D I had one. one. if you can even call it one LOL; I'm rly meek at the first meeting anyway and in rl I'll always say sry about 10 min (so says a friend). And really... I don't think I'm fit to be in relationships, physically and mentally (well... at this school at least;; )

but it's all good =w= crushing on ppl in my soon-to-be-major sounds fun =P -SHOT-

yaaaa.... I sound like I'm gna be the old woman across the streets with 50 cats =P

[KazeRyuu]

being chubby isn't bad
chubby is cute imo

Well, almost all the girls, here in my country, first see you, if she don`t like how do you look, then she wont ear you, and almost every one here likes the muscle head boys, and leaves behind the chubby/so tall boys

well... maybe if you think you are too fat,
you can try go on diet...
but if you think you are fine~ then no need~~
as long as you are healthy

I am Chubby, and i like me how i are, i am also very healthy, and i like to do sports, like Football and Volleyball, but even with that the girl around here just love the muscle head boy who tread them like a paper shed.

I am right now on training, for bump my muscles and reduce some fat of my body

[Jeth86]

...but even with that the girl around here just love the muscle head boy who tread them like a paper shed.

That's just how it typically goes. I'd be surprised if a girl actually picked someone who's NOT a big, beefy meathead.

[icy ciel]

...but even with that the girl around here just love the muscle head boy who tread them like a paper shed.

That's just how it typically goes. I'd be surprised if a girl actually picked someone who's NOT a big, beefy meathead.

r-really??

I am right now on training, for bump my muscles and reduce some fat of my body [/color]

goodluck with that

[Thunder]

...but even with that the girl around here just love the muscle head boy who tread them like a paper shed.

That's just how it typically goes. I'd be surprised if a girl actually picked someone who's NOT a big, beefy meathead.

r-really??

*pat pat* Yes, really. That's the way it goes the vast majority of the time.

[icy ciel]

...but even with that the girl around here just love the muscle head boy who tread them like a paper shed.

That's just how it typically goes. I'd be surprised if a girl actually picked someone who's NOT a big, beefy meathead.

r-really??

*pat pat* Yes, really. That's the way it goes the vast majority of the time.

uuuu.... ._.